How Do You Talk About Behavior Change?

Host: Oluf Nissen

Book: “Instant Influence” - Michael V. Pantalon; “6 questions” conversation to help people discover their own motivation for change, grounded in a firm belief in the other person's absolute autonomy. If not a licensed professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, etc.) do not attempt to motivate someone else to do anything.

Book: “Anatomy of Peace” - Jim Ferrell and Duane Boyce

• Find a “Proxy” person who you can talk to instead of the person you're trying to influence
• Empathize
• Open your mind
• Find the “attractor” of the current behavior
• Use powerful questions
• Paradox intervention (“could you make it worse?”)
• Change the environment (“Container” from HSD “CDE”; Containers, Differences, Exchanges)
• Use “Constellations” variations
• Give options of what to do instead (“Specification by example”)

Self-coaching book: A bigger game by Deborah Hartmann Preuss (via Andreas)